Am writing this post because am really passionate about this topic. Having a church near your house is really annoying. The noise they make alone is absurd. Am a christian YES! but sometimes the noise can really annoy the hell out of you.
Most at times, they don't tune their micro-phones to suit them. they just open it as loud as they can. Secondly most churches are not sound proof so every noise they make comes right into peoples homes. my home shares a wall with a charismatic church, and its not easy at all.
They have church service 3 times in a week, Mondays,Wednesdays and Sundays. Not to talk of prayer meetings and choir rehearsals and even the occasional revivals. When i am in my living room its more like am in the church. When they have all night services, i can hardly sleep. And being sleep deprived is a huge disaster.
I think churches should have noise limits and other things so that homes closer to them can have some peace and quiet. As i am writing this post they are really making a lot of noise. I think thats what triggered me to write this post.
Sunday, 25 August 2013
Friday, 26 April 2013
CAN A BREAK-UP CAUSE PTSD??
A break-up is when someone you are romantically involved with decides end the relationship.Mostly its usually agreed upon that you guys are to part ways.Sometimes one party wants to move on and the other wants to make the latter happy so they all agree to part ways.
Mostly, the emotional stress alone that comes with break-ups is sometimes painfully painful.I don't know the word to use to describe losing someone who means so much to you. when you break up,technically you are losing your best friend,confidant and emotional vault, the person you have built your life around and your sex partner.
PTSD is the abbreviated form of Post Traumatic stress Disorder. This usually when one goes through a traumatic experience, we try to get over the incident. We are likely to do things that will make us forget it ever happened. When we see stuff that reminds us of the incident we shut our brains to it. PTSD starts usually within 3 months after the incident, in very rare cases symptoms may not appear until years after the incident Post-traumatic stress disorder symptoms are generally grouped into three types: intrusive memories, avoidance and numbing, and increased anxiety or emotional arousal (hyper-arousal).
Symptoms of intrusive memories may include:
* Flashbacks, or reliving the traumatic event for minutes or even days at a time
* Upsetting dreams about the traumatic event
Symptoms of avoidance and emotional numbing may include:
* Trying to avoid thinking or talking about the traumatic event
* Feeling emotionally numb
* Avoiding activities you once enjoyed
* Hopelessness about the future
* Memory problems
* Trouble concentrating
* Difficulty maintaining close relationships
Symptoms of anxiety and increased emotional arousal may include:
* Irritability or anger
* Overwhelming guilt or shame
* Self-destructive behavior, such as drinking too much
* Trouble sleeping
* Being easily startled or frightened
* Hearing or seeing things that aren't there
Post-traumatic stress disorder symptoms can come and go. You may have more post-traumatic stress disorder symptoms when things are stressful in general, or when you run into reminders of what you went through. You may hear a car backfire and relive combat experiences, for instance. Or you may see a report on the news about a rape and feel overcome by memories of your own assault.mostly when one goes through a break up the type of PTSD is avoidance and emotional numbness.
Don't let someone you
once loved make your life miserable.love is a beautiful thing,enjoy it while it lasts and when it doesn't work out as planned, just let it go. Just deal with it the best way you can. Feelings just don't go away. They take time
Mostly, the emotional stress alone that comes with break-ups is sometimes painfully painful.I don't know the word to use to describe losing someone who means so much to you. when you break up,technically you are losing your best friend,confidant and emotional vault, the person you have built your life around and your sex partner.
PTSD is the abbreviated form of Post Traumatic stress Disorder. This usually when one goes through a traumatic experience, we try to get over the incident. We are likely to do things that will make us forget it ever happened. When we see stuff that reminds us of the incident we shut our brains to it. PTSD starts usually within 3 months after the incident, in very rare cases symptoms may not appear until years after the incident Post-traumatic stress disorder symptoms are generally grouped into three types: intrusive memories, avoidance and numbing, and increased anxiety or emotional arousal (hyper-arousal).
Symptoms of intrusive memories may include:
* Flashbacks, or reliving the traumatic event for minutes or even days at a time
* Upsetting dreams about the traumatic event
Symptoms of avoidance and emotional numbing may include:
* Trying to avoid thinking or talking about the traumatic event
* Feeling emotionally numb
* Avoiding activities you once enjoyed
* Hopelessness about the future
* Memory problems
* Trouble concentrating
* Difficulty maintaining close relationships
Symptoms of anxiety and increased emotional arousal may include:
* Irritability or anger
* Overwhelming guilt or shame
* Self-destructive behavior, such as drinking too much
* Trouble sleeping
* Being easily startled or frightened
* Hearing or seeing things that aren't there
Post-traumatic stress disorder symptoms can come and go. You may have more post-traumatic stress disorder symptoms when things are stressful in general, or when you run into reminders of what you went through. You may hear a car backfire and relive combat experiences, for instance. Or you may see a report on the news about a rape and feel overcome by memories of your own assault.mostly when one goes through a break up the type of PTSD is avoidance and emotional numbness.
Don't let someone you
Saturday, 30 March 2013
my experience with food
In Ghana when someone gains weight most people assume its because life is treating them well.Over the past month I have gained over 9 pounds and this is quite surprising because I have a good metabolic system so no matter how much I eat I hardly gain weight.
Over the last two months or so I realized I have a lot of emotions I don't show. I rather eat and feel OK about everything. When I say eat I eat everything from vegetables, to junk food, I mean anything I get ill just eat to feel OK about myself and my problems.I actually love food on a very normal day but my love for food increased as time goes by. With my last blog post I was actually happy with my life.Remember nothing lasts forever. My problems seem to be all around. my love life, my educational choices, even very petty decisions I made and felt good about them all feel wrong.
When some friends see me they go like 'hey life seems to be treating you well' I just smile and say by grace. Am a fairly good Christian but depression isn't part of grace, with grace you get a free mind and good will but ill have to smile and pretend life is treating me well whilst life is lashing out at me but I have to keep keeping my composure.
Next time you see a friend who has gained weight don't think its good life. I'm not saying its not good life but depression cause about 70% of weight gain. This is because most people won't talk about what is actually going on in their lives. they will rather eat and feel everything is OK. From my personal experience When you’re struggling with depression, your eating habits often suffer. Some people overeat and gain weight, turning to food to lift their mood. Others find they’re too exhausted to prepare balanced meals or that they've lost their appetite.
Many people crave carbohydrates or soothing comfort foods, such as ice cream and cake, when they’re depressed. One reason for this is that foods high in carbs and sugar increase levels of serotonin, a brain chemical that elevates mood.“In the short term, eating foods high in sugar and fat may make you feel calmer and cared for,
But in the long term, a steady diet of comfort foods can lead to weight gain (I goggled this)
Noone wants to be looked down upon and noone wants others to feel sorry 4 them.
People will rather not talk about how they feel they will rather push it down with food. one thing i have learnt is food never makes your problems go away it just makes you feel better just for some minutes.
am hoping i find the courage to fight my problems but till then......
Over the last two months or so I realized I have a lot of emotions I don't show. I rather eat and feel OK about everything. When I say eat I eat everything from vegetables, to junk food, I mean anything I get ill just eat to feel OK about myself and my problems.I actually love food on a very normal day but my love for food increased as time goes by. With my last blog post I was actually happy with my life.Remember nothing lasts forever. My problems seem to be all around. my love life, my educational choices, even very petty decisions I made and felt good about them all feel wrong.
When some friends see me they go like 'hey life seems to be treating you well' I just smile and say by grace. Am a fairly good Christian but depression isn't part of grace, with grace you get a free mind and good will but ill have to smile and pretend life is treating me well whilst life is lashing out at me but I have to keep keeping my composure.
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| ice cream with waffle |
Many people crave carbohydrates or soothing comfort foods, such as ice cream and cake, when they’re depressed. One reason for this is that foods high in carbs and sugar increase levels of serotonin, a brain chemical that elevates mood.“In the short term, eating foods high in sugar and fat may make you feel calmer and cared for,
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| chocolate cake |
But in the long term, a steady diet of comfort foods can lead to weight gain (I goggled this)
Noone wants to be looked down upon and noone wants others to feel sorry 4 them.
People will rather not talk about how they feel they will rather push it down with food. one thing i have learnt is food never makes your problems go away it just makes you feel better just for some minutes.
am hoping i find the courage to fight my problems but till then......
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| double beef cheese burger |
Thursday, 24 January 2013
Changes
This should be a fun post.
So am looking through my pics and i see a picture of me with my hair permed, i take a closer look at the pic and i laugh out loud. heyy allow me ahhh.
<----This is a pic of me with perm and yes it was this long and
> --------this is a pic of me with natural hair, in fact i locked it but it wasn't permanent
Let me keep you up to date, as at now i have natural hair and how did i decide to go natural? I braided my hair and it looked like dread locks and a very close friend of mine told me ill look good with natural hair so out of excitement i decided to try and DAMN IT HASN'T BEEN EASY. It hurts like hell when I go to braid, twist or put on a weave. I have kinky hair and its very hard, I was thinking of an easier way to keep my hair and oh yes ave considered dread lock (permanent), they are very nice when i see other people do it but i don't like the fact that i have to cut more than half of my hair away.
Hairdressers are the ones i hate most because they seem to hate me also because i have natural hair, and oh yes ave thought of perming my hair again but i don't like the idea because i eat a lot (yes i admit it) but keeping chemicals away from my hair is one hard decision, i cry most times at the salon but i know good things don't come easy. so i have my natural hair on and if i really get tired, then maybe i might lock it permanently anaa???
I can say I AM GLAD
As at now,am exactly where I think I want to be. Am actually happy and i haven't been happy for a while. All is well with my family and my friends are fine( oh sorry, I just have two people I can talk to now so those are who I consider my friends)
It hasn't been easy at all, boy troubles, family trouble and all, but i pulled through.People think am emotionless but its not so, I care for a few people so therefore only these people can get to me. I have learnt to control my emotions and not let my emotions control me. I know am sounding all confident at this moment but the truth is I am confident (more than I have ever been), there are a couple of people I care about but they wont accept me just the way I am so i have kept them at bay and watching them from afar.When they are ready to accept me as I am they will let me in.Ill wait as long as I can but you know "nothing lasts forever"
Afi is an angel sent in human form to be my earpiece, she listens to all my crap and "wahala" , God sends people into our lives for different reasons but am glad Afi came to stay. I can talk to her without feeling like am being judged or looked down upon.She knows me inside out and so do I know her. We talk about our future together as if we are a couple, I cant seem to tell her how much I love her,
they say not All that glitters is gold. my life was a mess and with help from people who care and wont ever let me go no matter what, have helped straighten my life out. Ave learned to stand up for myself. I don't know if you will ever read this but if you do NYS I owe you my life and all that I am now, you never gave up on me no matter what happened you are a true friend and am proud to say AFI and NYS thanks for having my back all this while.
Someone once said on twitter " the less friends you have, the smaller your circle and the less bullsh*t" if you really know me in person you know am not anti-social but now am learning to be reserved because it looks like that will help me more..........................Life is too short to make a mess out of yourself,with honesty and hard-work you will go places.
Till my next post........................ maakumi over and out.
Afi is an angel sent in human form to be my earpiece, she listens to all my crap and "wahala" , God sends people into our lives for different reasons but am glad Afi came to stay. I can talk to her without feeling like am being judged or looked down upon.She knows me inside out and so do I know her. We talk about our future together as if we are a couple, I cant seem to tell her how much I love her,
they say not All that glitters is gold. my life was a mess and with help from people who care and wont ever let me go no matter what, have helped straighten my life out. Ave learned to stand up for myself. I don't know if you will ever read this but if you do NYS I owe you my life and all that I am now, you never gave up on me no matter what happened you are a true friend and am proud to say AFI and NYS thanks for having my back all this while.
Someone once said on twitter " the less friends you have, the smaller your circle and the less bullsh*t" if you really know me in person you know am not anti-social but now am learning to be reserved because it looks like that will help me more..........................Life is too short to make a mess out of yourself,with honesty and hard-work you will go places.
Till my next post........................ maakumi over and out.
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