1. Over-protection and jealousy mean they just love you a lot:When I was younger, I thought if someone cares so much it means they really love you a lot.They love you so much they act irrational sometimes.Someone’s inability to control their irrational thoughts should never be taken as a sign of true love.
2. Letting them “win” is taking the higher road;
You don’t understand why your partner is so upset, or you don’t get why
they can’t see it your way, and it feels like the argument is going
nowhere. So you decide to just give it to them, tell them “Okay” or
“You’re right” so it can end, but this is not ok,The reality is that this tactic is over-used, resulting
in a lot of arguments which are never actually resolved because the
“high road” Use some introspection, actually hear what your partner is saying, and talk about it like grown ups.
3. Putting your partner’s needs way above yours: You want them to know you
treasure them, so you do all you can to show them that you care about
their needs a lot more than your own. The sentiment is lovely, but if you
continuously neglect your wants and needs for your partner’s, you’ll end
up frustrated or burnt out.
4. Intense or frequent fights are just a side effect of true love: The couple that’s passionately love fights fiercely or
frequently because that’s how much they love each other. All that
passion just boils over into rage sometimes, it’s a sign that you’re
truly in love.This is typically a myth.How this idea came to be I will
never know, but there should be nothing romantic about routine and/or
spiteful disputes. At best you could be ignoring real problems in your
relationship because you think this level of fighting is normal, and at
worst it could be the prelude to an abusive relationship.
5. Keeping score of the other person’s wrongdoings is just self-protection ;Okay, so you messed up, but
your partner totally messed up that one time so they have no right to
get mad at you. An eye for an eye, right?Neither of you end up actually
working through anything because you’re too busy playing the Who Messed
Up Worse game. If you’re bringing up something that happened a while
ago, chances are you aren’t actually over it and that conflict was never
resolved, either. Lose-lose.
