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Well, for the record, sex feels good and it’s a lot of fun for consenting adults (when done properly, Yes, there is a proper way to have sex). Besides that, having sex regularly cannot only make you feel good, but closer to your partner.

Many scientific studies have found a loving relationship; physical touch and passionate sex can bring health benefits, such as lower blood pressure. In fact, anything that exercises your heart is considered good for you, including sex (Sexcercise). Here are 10 surprising benefits of having sex that might make you crave more.

·       People who have sex have higher levels of what defends your body against germs, viruses, and other intruders

·       For women, having sex ups vaginal lubrication, blood flow, and elasticity, all of which make sex feel better and help her crave more of it.


·       Good sex is like a workout for your pelvic floor muscles. When you have an orgasm, it causes contractions in those muscles, which strengthens them.
This helps with bladder control in women.

·       Sex is a really great form of exercise(Sexcercise). Men who make love regularly (at least twice a week) were 45 percent less likely to develop heart disease. In fact, research recently revealed that sex burns about 4 calories a minute for men and 3 for women, making it (at times) a 'significant' form of exercise.

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Lessens pain. Before you reach for an aspirin, try an orgasm.


·       Improves sleep. You may nod off more quickly after sex, and for good reason.

·       Sexual activity, and specifically intercourse, is linked to better stress response and lower blood pressure.

·       Sex and orgasms result in increased levels of the hormone oxytocin -- the "love" hormone -- that helps you feel bonded to your partner and better experience empathic connections.

·       "When a woman orgasms, her uterus contracts and, in the process, rids the body of cramp-causing compounds," explains Meston. The increased number of uterine contractions can also help expel blood and tissue more quickly, helping to end your period faster.

·       That fabled ‘morning-after’ glow? It’s not just your imagination: You really do look better after having sex. Sex even helps you look younger. That glow can be attributed to a combination of stress relief, better mood, and the flush of blood under your skin that’s a natural part of the arousal process.

               Despite all these benefits, never forget to have safe sex!

5 Relationship Habits You Don’t Realize Are Toxic

1. Over-protection and jealousy mean they just love you a lot:When I was younger, I thought if someone cares so much it means they really love you a lot.They love you so much they act irrational sometimes.Someone’s inability to control their irrational thoughts should never be taken as a sign of true love.

 2. Letting them “win” is taking the higher road;
You don’t understand why your partner is so upset, or you don’t get why they can’t see it your way, and it feels like the argument is going nowhere. So you decide to just give it to them, tell them “Okay” or “You’re right” so it can end, but this is not ok,The reality is that this tactic is over-used, resulting in a lot of arguments which are never actually resolved because the “high road” Use some introspection, actually hear what your partner is saying, and talk about it like grown ups.

3. Putting your partner’s needs way above yours: You want them to know you treasure them, so you do all you can to show them that you care about their needs a lot more than your own. The sentiment is lovely, but if you continuously neglect your wants and needs for your partner’s, you’ll end up frustrated or burnt out.

 4. Intense or frequent fights are just a side effect of true love: The couple that’s passionately love fights fiercely or frequently because that’s how much they love each other. All that passion just boils over into rage sometimes, it’s a sign that you’re truly in love.This is typically a myth.How this idea came to be I will never know, but there should be nothing romantic about routine and/or spiteful disputes. At best you could be ignoring real problems in your relationship because you think this level of fighting is normal, and at worst it could be the prelude to an abusive relationship.

 5. Keeping score of the other person’s wrongdoings is just self-protection ;Okay, so you messed up, but your partner totally messed up that one time so they have no right to get mad at you. An eye for an eye, right?Neither of you end up actually working through anything because you’re too busy playing the Who Messed Up Worse game. If you’re bringing up something that happened a while ago, chances are you aren’t actually over it and that conflict was never resolved, either. Lose-lose.

Soledad

This was written by a good friend. Sena Kodjokuma 

My hands are reaching out,

Just to brush the tips of your fingers,

Before it finds me again,

The darkness.

I am rolled and basted in it.

Deep fried.

Garnished with hollow,

Oh the longing!

Just to brush the tips of your fingers,

Yet the darkness finds me.

I feel so....

Alone. 

How is it I can see you?

Lucid,

Yet you cannot see my hands reaching,

Just to brush the tips of your fingers.

You need only look down,

Into this pit,

To see my hands,

For while you scan the sky,

To reach out for my hands,

I am rolled and basted,

Deep fried in this darkness.

I feel so...

Alone.

14 Benefits of lemon

14 Amazing Benefits of Lemon:

1. Cure for acne. Lemon contains antibacterial properties that can kill off the P. acne bacteria, fight infection and inflammation, and clear clogged pores.
2. Whiten your teeth.  Make your own teeth whitening treatment by mixing lemon juice and baking soda, applying to it your teeth, and leaving it on for 60 seconds. The acid and sodium bicarbonate break down the coating coloring your teeth.
3. Deal with dandruff. Lemon juice can kill off the bacteria causing dandruff, so apply it to your scalp with olive or coconut oil.
4. Balance your pH. Lemons are surprisingly alkalinic, and they can help to balance your body’s internal pH.
5. Flush your intestines. Lemons increase muscle contractions in your intestines, ensuring regular bowel movements that will flush the toxins and waste material. Just a glass of lemon water every morning can do the trick!
6. Provide vital nutrients. You’ll find that these tasty citrus fruits are loaded with potassium, calcium, phosphorus, citric acid, and magnesium–all vital minerals your body cannot live without.

1. Deal with inflammatory pain. Did you know that lemons can help to deal with the pain of swollen joints? It will fight off the uric acid that is causing gout, thereby reducing the presence of the crystals that makes gout such a painful problem.
2. Cleanse your organs. Lemon contains citric acid, which can dissolve calcium deposits, kidney stones, and even gallstones. Flush all these potentially painful build-ups from your organs to keep them running smoothly.
3. Detoxify your liver. Drinking warm lemon water is a good way to show your liver some love, as lemon helps to detoxify this vital organ. It will stimulate the production of bile, dissolve uric acid, and get rid of toxins and poisons in your body.
4. Protect your heart. Lemons are rich in Vitamin C, a nutrient that has been linked to improved heart health. Vitamin C can lower blood cholesterol levels, reduce the risk of atherosclerosis, lower blood pressure, increase the production of HDL (good) cholesterol, fight off free radicals, and lower blood lipoprotein levels. All in all, it’s a very useful, heart-friendly vitamin.
5. Improve brain health. Lemon peels contain a special phytonutrient called tangeretin. This potent nutrient has been proven useful at treating brain conditions such as Parkinson’s disease, as it protects the brain cells from decaying.
6. Boost your immune system. Lemon is one of the best immune boosting foods, as the Vitamin C will help to fight off bacteria, parasites, fungi, and viruses in your body. It can destroy intestinal worms and even fight off cancer thanks to the 22 anti-cancer nutrients and compounds it contains.
7. Soothe chapped lips. Applying a bit of lemon to your lips will help to prevent chapping, and can exfoliate the lips to remove dead skin cells. Rub lemon on at night and wash it off the next morning for the ultimate lip-healing remedy.
8. Strengthen your fingernails. If your fingernails are yellow and brittle, it’s time to apply a mixture of lemon juice and olive oil. The oil and acid mixture will harden your nails, preventing them from cracking or breaking easily. It can strengthen the nail beds, and will even whiten them when they have turned yellow.

Wow, lemons truly are some of the most useful fruits on the planet! Thanks to the Vitamin C, citric acid, and minerals it contains, you can improve your health drastically by using lemons.

Effects of excesive drinking.

We all know that drinking too much alcohol is bad for us, but do we know how bad it really is?  Drinking too much be it on a single occasion or over time can seriously damage your health. Some vital organs are affected when we drink a lot. let me shed some light on some of them.

• Brain:
  • Alcohol interferes with the brain’s communication pathways, making it harder to think clearly and move with coordination.
  
  
  
• Heart:
  • Cardiomyopathy – Stretching and drooping of heart muscle
  • Arrhythmias – Irregular heart beat
  • Stroke
  • High blood pressure
  
  
  LIVER 
• Steatosis, or fatty liver 
• Alchoholic hepatitis 

If you drink a lot, perhaps cutting it out right away will be tough. Cut down the number of glasses you drink each time, followed by the number of times you drink a week.

10 Foods you MUST NOT Refrigerate

                                 
 *Bread will go dry and stale faster.

 *Tomatoes-It will loose its flavor and it texture









*Onions- it will become moldy and mushy.
*Garlic will sprout and grow moldy.

*Watermelon will loose its antioxidants

 *Potatoes-it will become gritty and will affect the flavor.

*Hot sauce(shito) is best kept in a cabinet or on a spice rack

*Honey will crystallize and thicken faster.

*coffee will loose flavor and pick up odors from the fridge.








*Hard liquor must be kept at room temperature at all times.

 

(Photo credits; GOOGLE)

My Thoughts

Familiarity they say breeds contempt. This may be true for some, but more often, familiarity makes people take each other for granted. Just because you have been friends with someone for a while doesn't mean you know them totally  or just because you have dated for a couple of years doesn't mean you should stop doing nice things for each other, or you stop asking how their day went at the end of the day.

Not everyone is looking for a long-term relationship, but most people who are in committed relationships are interested in keeping love alive for the duration.

Say "thank you" often and sincerely, and say it for even the most mundane things.Like making you laugh when you are grouchy or not exactly in the mood. Sub consciously, your partner will feel appreciated.

Learn to argue well. Some couples may be afraid to argue, believing that it's a sign that they aren't compatible or fearing that the argument will be the end of the relationship. Others use it as a prelude to passionate make-up sex. However, couples who know how to argue well find that it strengthens their connection with each other, and a strong relationship is a safe space for airing differences.(I read  a book somewhere which triggered this thought).